When the judge is not a joke

To generally speak about judgement:

People are entitled to opinions, but to push it any farther than that into blackmail, punishment, using, or abusing is something that they aren't entitled to. It will not force me into shame or change my mind. All it will do is cause a war. It is the reason why I have so many enemies. I only follow myself and live to please myself. Anyway, I have broken down categories of how I see people use judgement:

1. People get pissed at an opinion or choice you make and they want to give you an eye for an eye intentional karma for everything. This is a time when I feel that people try to rob others of their identity to say we're all the same. I don't think we are. It is possible for people to think or say the same thing as another. It comes natural, not really being a copycat. But the intentional karma screws up nature. Its revenge in another synonym. People have experienced different things to different degrees. What means something that is deep and meaningful to one person could be worth nothing to the other person. Why should one want to even the score and bring upon a burden when the level of care isn't even the same. I think it is a big waste of energy. People have too many details in their life. I see it as another part of being in a commune. But, there is a difference between sharing human rights and sharing specific details.

2. People judge you from something you did in kindergarten. Not just kindergarden but could even be something from 5 to 10 years ago. It has nothing with who the person is in the present, just a tool that someone uses to try to manipulate or get away with pushing the other. Some people do live and learn and evolve over the years. Not all, but some. Even though I disagree with using genetics as judgement as well, this is not how I am relating it. It is kind of like the following example about relevance. I think if someone has done something to offend another person that much, the relationship should end. Not in a couple relationship but any kind. An example: Martha and Bertha are friends. Martha borrows a piece of clothing a ruins it. 5 years later, Martha loses a potential network partner or friend because of intentional gossip to purposefully sabotage them on the Bertha's behalf because Bertha was pissed. I guess it could be defined as late revenge. People don't always have the time, energy, or means to get the revenge they want. At least be separate from the person and defriend them if you want to get revenge. I guess some people are so time-consumed that they can't figure out their entire picture. Still, let go of either the friend or your anger and move on. Don't use it against a person years later. If it is moral related, I still think people experience life and evolve. Things either get old or forgotten and they are in a different phase in life. Not always, but don't assume if you havn't kept up with the person. Stalking them is a whole different story in relation. Steroids. Stare-roids.

3. People judge you with things that aren't even relevant to the situation. You could have gotten a problem wrong in math, and the judger blames it on: "Well, if you would have mopped the floor, you could have gotten the answer in math correct." No relevance whatsoever. People use other fallacies as well to add on to their argument as to why you aren't good enough and why you are inadequate. It has no science or logic to it, just assumptions, and wanting to believe what you want to believe, most of the time not even taking the time to adequately read or test. Some people would call you a liar on top of that again, because it is something that they want to believe.

4. All of the above are examples of incompetence. But incompetent judgement is its own category as well. Not only is it wrong to be judged on who you are, but when criticized or judged for an action or behavior when it is not the true motive or has any truth to it can be torture. Especially when you're helpless. Now, I have given some people good credit for their barbie skills (not sincerely approving, but a mockery along the way). But especially when I watch tv and get paranoid and interact in real life, some of the things I hear are torture. I don't like a person for this reason, I'm in love with a person for this reason, I think and feel this way about a person for this motive. Oh I hate it I hate it I hate it. People say, "Oh no, this is the secret service, a place for safety." Personally, I think it is just an excuse to want to have control and call the shots in a life that I don't feel I even live.

5. Pure hate and corruption. Doesn't matter the who what where when why. The person in power will make this person lose because they can and they want them to. The matrix finds ways to manipulate and cover it.